Taking control: How to tame your tongue!

The scars of socialization include experiences of  parents
arguing and sending mixed messages about
effective communication!

A tongue is a very active anatomy which works closely with your brain to communicate your thoughts and feelings to self, with others and about your perception of the world. Your tongue reveals who you are – your strengths and weaknesses.

Why you must tame your tongue!

You can make the world a better place or drive its inhabitants to destruction through your tongue. You must therefore tame your tongue because in all spiritual books, the Creator clearly indicates that He will judge you according to what you said.  The most important fact about the tongue is that is a tool of creation. Mankind is a spirit being created in the likeness of the Creator who created all things though His word. He spoke all things into existence. Mankind is therefore a creator with his thoughts and words too – positive thoughts and words create good things and negative thoughts and words create bad things. Note how the scripture in James 3:6 describes the untamed tongue:  “And the tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity; the tongue is set among our members as that which defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell.” 

How to tame your tongue!

Some spiritually aware people are able to control their tongue by applying helpful principles in the Bible including Psalm 111:10; “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.” The Creator’s only law – the law of love – says whatever good or bad you think about or say to others will revert to you! This is a natural law which does not discriminate and applies to everybody all the time. The Creator said we must love Him and others. When you apply love as directed, you will not have any problem with your tongue because:

1.    Your motivating factor is love which is a positive emotion and comes from having positive thoughts. Love generates and brings to life that similarity which mankind has with his Creator.

2.    You learn to banish negative thoughts by being conscious of what you are thinking and choosing to pay attention to positive thoughts only. Things you talk about are products of your thoughts, so the key is renewing your mind so that your tongue could be a projector of your spiritual self, which is created in the likeness and the image of the Creator. At this realm, your tongue builds and does not destroy people. It encourages those who have emotional wounds and releases those who are in bondage of anger because of their socialization issues. The Bible in Proverbs 4:23 encourage you to watch over your heart with all diligence so that you can consciously choose to be the source of blessings to others.

3.    You can choose to engage in personal behavioral change communication strategies such as thirty days abstinence of negative thoughts and words: Commending to gossip conversations; not watching or reading negative news, books and movies; not allowing any negative thought to dwell in your mind or progressing to become a spoken word.

4.    Write the names of the people you know - your sisters and brothers, members of your family, colleagues and the public authorities; and as you do so, listen to your feelings. Feelings are in-build mechanisms that give you accurate feedback of the nature of your thoughts. You either feel good or bad about yourself, others and things!

The outcome of the tamed tongue!

There is a great power in tamed tongue: First you affect people positively and your circle of influence will grow significantly. The power of creation in your thoughts and words speed up the manifestation of the miraculous experiences because everything you think and speak out with emotions produces results. Secondly you regain your control over your own life because as you speak positively to others and avoid blaming, lying, or getting angry and engaging in other negative thoughts and words, you attract good things – people, circumstance and experiences - to occur in your life and will positively impact on your relationships, wealth and health. When that happens, you become a point of reference; you are in the process of spiritual enlightenment. You reflect the nature of the Creator because evidently you create good things in your life. You become prosperous!

Taming your tongue is a necessary exercise in every person’s life. Untamed tongue could easily destroy you; stripping off your self-worth and connection with people you care about. Untamed tongue is the byproduct of the mind on auto-pilot mode; it surprises even the owner! Do take a moment and assess if you are making efforts to control your tongue. The power of the untamed tongue is never neutral; it causes either life or death!