|Every negative experience contributes|
to behaviour and habits.....
Childhood trauma could be any incident that you experienced and probably you are not aware of but is contributing to your undesirable behavior, habits, and unexplainable illness and relationships issues. The purpose of this article is to highlight these so that you can do your own further research.
Common traumas affecting emotional, social and physical health
Mothers and caregivers commit long-term emotional offenses during the first eight year of the children’s formative years which are stored in the subconscious mind, yet contribute to insecurity and other emotional issues. The difference between stress and emotional trauma is the intensity of the same emotions that apply to both. How quickly a person gets upset, the frequency and intensity, and the period it takes to calm down. The following are the contributors of emotional trauma:
1. Separation from primary caregiver: The first thing a new-born child does is to adapt to the environment in which it is born; all sounds and the voices of other members of the family. Removing a child from familiar environment causes anxiety. We have to remember that a child is a full person with little experience. This means children absorb all energies through all senses plus feelings and thoughts.
2. Low level of parenting: This refers to lack of knowledge of the caregiver to provide necessary comfort such as changing nappies and adherence to feeding schedule and bath-times. A child develops a trust from these simple expectations. For an example, normally children enjoy bath-time and that coupled with soothing talk provides an atmosphere for bonding with the mother or caregivers.
3. Physical harm: The body remembers everything that happens to it hence development of unexplained fear of heights, animals or any other responses which a person may not recall but clearly indicates evidence of pain and or fearful experience.
4. Exposure to unpleasant environment: This refers to harsh exchange of words, fights, horror movies and withdrawn resources. Most parents are not aware that the sound effects are meant to bring specific responses. For an example, horror movies elicit fear and it creates fearful environment. This could even affect spiritual well being of a child. The function of the subconscious mind it to store information – good and bad – and these will manifest as undesirable behavior later in life.
Triggers of emotional trauma!
|Emotional trauma becomes a social thorn in adulthood...!|
Stored childhood experiences and information are triggered by current incidents that are similar to the actual experience such as:
1. Disappointments: Traumatic feeling of disappointment such as divorce may affect how a child who experienced such serious conflict to process it successfully. As an adult such a person may have fear of approaching the opposite gender for a romantic relationship. The general fixation could be low self-esteem.
2. Injury from accidents including natural disasters: I was injured by a broken bottle twice when I was eight years; thus creating a fear of walking barefooted outside the house. Unreasonable fear of anything has a root which often occurred during childhood.
3. Physical assault including rape: Exposure to such violence often causes a traumatic response and lack of trust from the person of opposite sex; thus contributing to inability to have healthy sexual relationships.
Fear is a learned behavior. We all know that an infant fear nothing until it experiences unpleasant feelings of shame, despair anxiety, fear and pain. Taking control of your life denotes correcting any unexplained behavior such as anger, low self esteem and fearfulness. Identifying these flawed behaviors will help you to realize that they are emotional trauma archived in the subconscious mind. Life follows you. This means you are what you were exposed to during your formative years and to a lesser degree, exposure to negative experiences with other people in all social institutions.