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Saturday, 23 July 2016

Taking control: How to monitor your starting over goals!


Are you at cross-roads? It is time to think about your
 deep needs for happiness?

Starting-over goal is a clear statement of purpose which requires coordination of tasks and resources towards its achievement. Often goals are slowed down or derailed by internal and or external factors. It is therefore prudent to closely monitor tasks and the level of motivation to maintain desired progress.

The rationale for starting-over goals!
Starting over goals attempt to correct the failed previous ones.  Most people create new goals at the beginning of the year or anytime they encounter failed relationships, death of significant ones, or disability due to accidents or a failed project. Others may originate from evaluation of current ones which may require reinforcement following enlargement of the operational scope. The aim of creating starting over goal is to consciously let go the failed one and purposely redirect the whole resources to a new assignment.

Underlying reasons for evaluation of the stating-over goals!
Evaluation of the starting over goals denotes close monitoring and assessment of success factors and smooth upward mobility towards the target.  Life is dynamic and every situation either supports or creates hurdles for the established goals. For instance, it could be that a divorcee is all charged up and eager to let go of the painful separation and divorce and wants to qualify for a promotion for higher position. Distraction, even if is it is not negative, could derail self-empowerment goal. It is therefore important to reach within self and consider the inner environment as follows:

1.   Impact of change: Asking yourself questions always force you to be objective in evaluating your commitment to the established need. For an example, is your goal still the priority? The reason for such a question is to establish if the motivation for a particular goal is still relevant and require investment of all your resources.   
2.   Painful incidents: Often painful incidentals could force you to shift the
Your attitude in deciding to start-over
 will determine your altitude
focus elsewhere. When something like death of the loved ones occurs, it could derail some of your plans and divert resources to that tragedy. It is wise to respond to incidents and not react. The latter always create gaps which derail goals.
3.   Discipline in daily monitoring of progress: Set a specific time to monitor progress and success on daily sub-tasks. The ideal time for me is in the evening in order that I can go to sleep with clear schedule for the following day. It also sends me to sleep with a good emotion.
4.   Quantify progress: Quantifiable tasks help you to see the momentum towards the goal. For an example, if I want to learn general transcription, it is helpful to clarify the current position – to improve my typing speed from forty words per minute to fifty in two months. This I can measure and increase the scope of subtasks towards this goal.


Setting starting-over goals is the most positive way of letting go the previous and current painful experience and move forward. Short and long-term starting-over goals are affected by daily incidents and it is important to not lose sight of the target date by allowing procrastination. It is ideal to have a close friend or a professional life coach to assist you make start-over goals to avoid common traps like setting goals that are purely motivated by emotional reaction to painful experiences. Discipline plays an important role in ensuring that established tasks are done and recorded. This will not only keep desired momentum, but will empower you to change how you make decisions and manage all your resources effectively.