Happiness is a positive emotion a person displays, which
reveals the nature of thoughts through words and actions. It is a necessary ingredient
that supports longevity and harmonious living with other inhabitants of planet
earth. It is an assurance of the Creator’s purpose of creation and therefore a
prerequisite of holistic wellness.
Happiness
is a main ingredient of self transformation.
Naturally we all seek happiness in varying degree of
needs in one or all three categories that symbolize necessities of life: We are
happy when we experience good health; when we have good relationships within family,
community and other social institution and most importantly when choosing a
mate. We are happy when we successfully attain financial prosperity. Let us
highlight how happiness transcends the grave:
1.
Pre-birth
and early years: A happy couple prepares before having a
baby because it will enable them individually and as a couple to avoid any harm
to their offspring. The most important step is eating right foods and avoiding
any lifestyle hazards that could negatively affect the brain development during
pregnancy. After birth parents have to adopt coaching versus military approach
to parenting style. Impartation of informal education from birth throughout the
first eight years is laying a lifelong foundation which will determine the
level of happiness and ability to manage emotional, social and spiritual challenges. This is happiness in action.
2.
Youth
and adult life: Happy youth are able to communicate their
confusion during their adolescent stage and therefore avoid many life changing
wrong choices. Happy family environment enables a child to trust both parents
with challenging experiences of interacting with people of opposite sex for
example. First a child learns love and
happiness from parents and is able to emulate them; thus encountering fewer
relationships issues. As a happy couple, a man and woman individually avoid
taking each other for granted: they address their own emotional challenges so
that they limit hindrances to building intimate relationship. They continue to
find ways of igniting passion by choosing to support each other to climb their
personal ladder of personal growth toward self actualization.
3.
Senior
life: Happiness support longevity and this denotes a mature
person with a mellow approach to life challenges. As a senior citizen, a person
becomes a resource to both young and colleagues. Such contentment seeks to
empower through both formal forums and community dialogue wherein knowledge is
imparted for the benefit of those seeking it and the improvement of the
community at large.
Toxicity
of lack of happiness!
For clarity of this subject, note the common disruptive
behavior and lifestyle of those who lack happiness:
1.
Obsessing on past negative experiences: Unhappy person maintain the pain by rehearsing the experience that caused
it. This self-injury is caused by low
level of awareness that the mind does not know the reality. Its function is to process
and store information whether a myth or truth, and to support actions that correlate
with its meaning.
2.
Victim minded: Happiness is a choice which is based on what a person wants in life. For
example, if you know that nothing can cause you prolonged pain if you do not allow
it; you will discard anything that steal your happiness during the first few seconds.
It is a learned behavior which empowers you to soar over any storm. It is
responding and not reacting to your environment.
3.
Lacking empathy: Happiness motivates you to think about others and lessen their pain by physical
actions or emotional support. Unhappy person is selfish and lives in bondage of
self indulgence which leaves him/her too poor to give anything away.
4.
Overly sensitive: Happy people also focus on other people’s strengths and naturally ignore
their moment of weakness when they display self injury in its various forms of
negative emotions.
5.
Obsessing over winning:
Happy people seek peace versus winning the battle.
Unhappy person will huff and puff over a tiny offense and continue to rewind
the incident for a long period.
6.
Do not know how to love – If you obsess on negative thoughts it means you do not know how to love
yourself. Logically, you cannot give what you do not have. Unhappy people are ill and the majority end up in prisons because they
act on their negative thoughts.
Being happy is a conscious decision that support loving
self and ensuring that you prohibit anything that seeks to cause emotional and
physical pain. You maintain happiness by being present; that is, being aware of
your environment and having emotional intelligence which enables you to know
and manage yourself adequately. Note that you are not your mind! Your own mind
can torture you and destroy you if you let it operate on auto-pilot mode.
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