Taking control: How to restore your confidence in pursuing your goal!

All three comes from within and are components of your goals!

It takes decisive effort to confront your limitations which hamper your success in attaining your identified goal in one or all of the three categories – health, relationships and wealth. Restoring confidence therefore depends on your attitude, knowledge of self and experience.

What is a confidence?

Confidence is a personal strong belief in your ability to live an optimal life by achieving identified goals in your prioritized list of needs.

When do you need to restore your confidence?

Success in attaining goals is time-bound and therefore measurable.  This is why it is important to set your goals within specific period so that at the end of that period you could measure key variables that inform your success or failure.  Unqualified failure will create a feeling of despair and onset of negative attitude towards life in general.  Failure when assessed objectively will be a stepping stone that ushers you into healthy introspection and ultimately motivates you to go back to your planning board where you will objectively review the nature of your goals with a purpose to fill identified gaps. Restoring your confidence therefore is a process of evaluation of all factors that contributed to the success or failure of the identified goal.

How to restore your confidence

When you are not fully present, meaning conscious of your internal conversation, you will allow

Any focused energy will produce results...

your ego to carry you into despair following failure to achieve an identified goal.  For an example, you could have planned to find a life partner immediately you finished your doctorate study. You may find someone who dumps you after two years. Then you may find another who has no time sensitive goal of starting a family. If you are watching your biological clock, you will obviously become anxious and the prospect of dumping that one and finding yet another person could be a daunting challenge. At this point you could pause and lick your emotional wounds and evaluate the nature of your objective as follows:

1.    Do not indulge in self-pity: Confidence is like muscles; if you do not use it, it withers and dies. To avoid void or hasty options, you may increase your knowledge in the field of your goal. You will likely come across relevant information that will address the gaps in your failed efforts.

2.    Understand what failure means: In simple terms, failure is the result of lesson learned with pain of loss of resources. It is associated with the loss of lime, money and most importantly the feeling of disappointment in self.  

3.    Revisit your evaluation record: Journaling all daily tasks during execution of your goal will provide a much needed information of strategies you took which could assist you to identify where you made errors. Highlight the errors and do not judge yourself.

4.    Make it impossible to quit: If you view the loss of time from a different perspective and in reference to accumulated information, it will be impossible to feel the loss. Instead you could regard it as an opportunity to know both good and bad contributors of your failure that qualifies you to boldly coach someone; let the first someone be you.

5.    Build momentum: Anything you focus on will bring results. This means that after empowering yourself further with information and skill you require to start from a better perspective, you will feel your motivation growing. Let me explain: You brains do not know the truth; any image plus supportive emotions you allow and entertain consistently will become the truth for you. For an example, if on the basis of fresh relevant information you belief that you are wiser from your failure and the experience have exposed you to success, you will indeed succeed. This means purposefully getting excited about your small daily wins.

Restoring your confidence has a lot to do with tricking your mind; refusing to allow despair to enter it.  It is advisable to be fully aware of your internal conversation because that are gateways that allow doubt and fear to creep in; thus delaying you to bounce back into purposeful action towards your goals.  Knowledge will always contribute to higher level of motivation and increase your scope of operation towards your identified goal. It requires the now factor; that only now can you change your past and influence your future prospects of upward mobility.