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| Arrogant partner controls and is unable to share love or give attention to anyone but self! |
All relationships thrive
in love, empathy and moderate humility. Arrogance depletes other people’s
energy and makes it hard to listen with interest or objectivity. A victim would
experience overbearing superiority and would not attempt to pursue another
encounter or seek a closer relationship.
Arrogant attitude defined!
Arrogant attitude denotes
overly display of confidence which in essence is insecurity and various esteem
issues. It is being conceited about self and is often associated with a defense
mechanism behavior. Arrogant attitude is fluffing one’s feathers and
exaggerating on personal attributes and achievements.
Symptoms of arrogance
How do you identify an
arrogant person? Often arrogant people are not aware that they display
overwhelming confidence and love of self in a way that ruin interaction with
others. Here is how you can identify symptoms of arrogance:
1.
Being cold and
detached.
2.
Regard self as
always right and more gifted than others.
3.
Always disregard
others inputs as inferior.
4.
Frequent critiquing
others opinions or work and correcting their ideas.
5.
Regard self and
ideas as better than others.
The impact of arrogant attitude in relationships
Arrogant person self-destruct
in the sense that the attempt to overplay self lowers other people respect as
follows:
1.
In a family setting: An
arrogant sibling cannot be close to others because it is a constant comparison
of quantity or quality of everything and never appreciating what others have
done. Such self-elevation causes animosity between siblings and a permanent gap
in later life.
2.
In a romantic relationship: Arrogance goes hand in hand with controlling behavior.
An arrogant person would seek low profile persons who would not question
anything but would submit or enjoy being at the background. For an example an arrogant male will attract
ladies who want and seek safety from a man who dictates over everything under
the guise of knowing it all. An arrogant lady on the other hand is a turn-off
for most male companion because of the tendency to draw attention regardless of
the setting.
How to overcome arrogant attitude
The most effective
approach to unlearn undesirable behavior is identifying and acknowledging that particular behavior as
needing modification. The second step is to have a clear goal of developing
humility and openness to overcome arrogant attitude as follows:
1.
Be aware of the
need to be in the spot light and take conscious decision and action not to
comply with that need.
2.
Learn to listen
whenever a person talks and ask questions and not express own view.
3.
Share achievements
with others and allow them to express their own views.
4.
Avoid correcting
others unless permission has been granted. For an example if you are making
your own contribution in a meeting or conference, do so without correcting
others; leave that to whoever is chairing the forum.
5.
Ask a friend to
give you a feedback regarding your behavior towards others; how you interacted
with others and allow them to be themselves around you.
Arrogant attitude is a
symptom of esteem issues and is a thorn in all types of relationships. Since it
is a form of a behavior defense mechanism, it can be unlearned with therapy.
Those suffering from it cannot have successful relationships because they lose
credibility and respect of others due to their exaggeration of their capabilities.
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