Spirituality is a personal and very sensitive subject
especially if you discovered it after you tied the knot. The challenge is how you handle the fact that
your spouse is not keen to listen and is averted by the subject!
Trust
the power of the Creator!
It is important to remember that you can only control
you and nobody! Marriage is the first social institution through which the
Creator demonstrated the need for authenticity of all human being by
prohibiting sex outside marriage. So, if your spouse is not listening to
anything that speaks of spirituality, run to your Creator with faith that He
knew your situation and is not even surprised that you are unevenly yoked. His
promise is that He will not allow anything beyond your capability to happen to
you. He knows your predicament and you
must seek the wisdom of the Holy Spirit.
The challenge is; do you know how He speaks?
- Evangelize with your actions!
Are you being judgmental?
This is a very serious analysis; one that could make or break the
relationship! Actually the ball is in
your court so to speak! Your husband must see your tranquil attitude in spite
of the storm. He must wonder why you are
not pissed off by his non-committal attitude to his life after death and his
role as the head of the family to be a role-model for his children. In other words, it is up to you to
demonstrate that spirituality is the essence of life for we come out of the
Creator who is the Spirit. It is your
opportunity to show that believers are the light of the world for they cannot
align themselves with any underworld activities. Believers are also the salt of the earth for
they impact others positively through unconditional love! So, practice unconditional
love for your spouse so that he could see the beauty of walking in the light!
- Observe key principle of
Christian life!
Key principles of
marriage is faithfulness to each other; submission; quite life; empowering
yourself with the Scripture; raise your children well and love God and other
people. Men like orderliness and these will surely show him that you are
dependable and are truly a help-mate.
Integrity should be demonstrated at home; this will increase his respect
of your openness and accountability. Be
a role-model at your work and seek God to make your strengths your winning cards!
You can achieve this by updating your professional credentials and skills;
simply be proactive!
- Balance your functional roles!
Give him his undivided
attention as spouse so that he would not have any objection when you set a time
for your morning devotion and Scripture reading and learning. You know that God wants believers to minister
to each other; do your best to make him happy.
Avoid crowding your day to avoid a burn-out experience. He will eventually learn to observe your
determination to serve him as a husband, be a compelling mother to his children,
professional woman of substance and a believer who make a difference! God says
His yoke of light and wants believers to minister to Him first and everything they
seek will be granted as requested!
- Socialization blocks are real!
Sometimes we forget the
power of informal foundational education; its roots could be unshakable
especially if the parents used corporal punishment for compliance of the rules. So, this handsome man beside you could still
be struggling with the fear of his parents even if they are both dead. Such classical conditioning could have a firm
hold on your spouse’s ability to make new decision that deviate from his family
norms, values and beliefs. Under such conditions,
no amount of persuasion will work; seek the Creator’s power to transform and bring
harmony in your marriage!
Taking control is learning to surrender rather than
being forceful about social and spiritual changes. What you resist, persist! You will never win
by pulling stances and pushing good stuff down your spouse’ throat! Surrendering
is being malleable in applying good principles on yourself to win the other
person!
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