Prolonged
self-condemnation is a form of emotional self-destruction behavior that
contaminates all three dimensions of love. It is devaluing self and being
unable to learn from personal unsuccessful experiences. It portrays poor knowledge of humanity and
all its deficiencies; and most importantly, learning to forgive yourself as
soon as you realize your mistakes.
Your Creator does not
expect you to be perfect because He knows that you can never be. Remember he
knows the number of your hairs just like the car manufacturer knows the number
of screws that holds it together.
Self-condemnation is unhealthy self-elevation which disregards humanity
flaws. This high regard of self is
harmful to you because you focus in your weaknesses rather than your
strengths. That type of skewed
perception will hinder any growth, be it social or spiritual. The fruits of
self-condemnation are:
1.
Inability to
discover your strengths which will result in inability to identify your life
goals.
2.
Failure to love anybody
because the standards are too high. In
other words no person will be lovable when all that is seen are blemishes.
3.
Inability to establish
relationships with others which could be the result of unidentified socialization
issues.
4.
Self-esteem issue which
is regarded as pride. Spiritually, pride
is loathsome and is the source of many spiritual ills portrayed in bitterness, judging
others rather than learning to love unconditionally. This is not having a
relationship with the Creator whose name is Love.
5.
Inability to let go
of the past mistakes. If you are not
able to forgive self, it is not possible to give others what you do not have.
Moving from
self-condemnation is a long journey which requires you to monitor the nature of
your thoughts and learn to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. This is being present. Being present means you do not let your mind operate
on autopilot mode. It is a skill that requires
one to identify who is self so that you know that the mind is not you. You are a spiritual being with a mind living
in a body. That is a starting point!
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