Taking control: How to keep your inner space calm and peaceful!

When you are aware of the need for calm and peacefulness, you will seek  them!!

Calm and peace are byproducts of love; they qualify the most envied emotional condition of self control. A calm person exert a positive energy and tends to create less threatening environment which allows and support trust and general positive regard of others.

Inner space defined!

Spiritually, the inner space is the whole essence of humanity, and regarded as godly because it is generally motivated by love. It is selfless and seeks to minister to others unconditionally and compassionately. At this realm, love prevails because perception of others is equal; that is, it is devoid of prejudice and other qualifications that determine the level of social recognition. Inner space is a non-physical component of humanity that has inexhaustible wisdom and is a domain of human spirituality.

The rationale for keeping the inner space calm and peaceful!

Your goals will support your
determination  to maintain
calmness and peace!

According to the principles of Positive Psychology, all people seek satisfactory life which is generally achieved through personal growth that leads to happiness. This deeper wisdom of humanity raises an awareness that it is our personal responsibilities to empower ourselves to find and unlock the door to our optimal life. It is proven that when a person knows his or her social and spiritual needs, it is easier to accept the fact that each person has his view of the world and therefore could subjectively access general calm and peacefulness.

Characteristics of calm and peaceful persons

Calmness and peacefulness are important components of happiness which is achievable through positive social ties with close family and other social institutions. Happiness is derived from leading a fully social and spiritual life that empowers a person to comprehend and lead purpose driven life. The following are characteristics of calm and peaceful persons:

1.   Through trial and error they have settled to being unashamedly content with self.

2.   They do not succumb to any form of manipulation by others. They do not fear criticism nor react to those who judge them.

3.   Experience taught them to seek to control inner self and to a limited extend their environment because no one has power over anybody except self.

4.   Through positive thinking, they have learned that every cloud has a silver lining. This point to the fact that every mistake has a blessing. When you understand this principle, you can effectively maintain calm and personal peace.

5.   Being enough denotes that one has accepted own blemishes and dwells on strengths and not weaknesses.

6.    They are open mindedness about self and others. This is attainable only if one maintain childlike attitude of loving others unconditionally, forgiving unlovable people and having time to play at fitness clubs and home. Being open mindedness denotes ability to absorb unpleasant experiences with low level of stress. Remember that basically there is nothing new; it is just that it is your first experience of the incident.   

7.   Ability to clean the inner space through meditation and adopting gratitude as a principle that motivates acceptance of others as they are. Gratitude is an ability to see good in any situation; thus ensures that a practitioner is calm and peaceful.

You can take control of your life by empowering yourself and remain teachable so that new experiences do not give you platform to judge others. If you seek quite time at least one hour per day before you sleep, you will have found a key that could open a door to the most envied human ability to maintain calm and peace. Our Creator advises anyone who seeks enlightenment to speak less. In other words when you seek calmness and peace, you will not entertain fruitless arguing match by those who are over the edge of tolerance of others. Instead, you will naturally join those who advocate for calm in addressing issues, always saturating self with peace that spills over to effectively transform others. 

Taking control: Regaining the inner peace after irreparable relationship!

Ending a stormy relationship should be a relief because you have finally declared your decision, yet feelings of anger and emotional hurt linker on and refuse to be switched off. Regaining the inner peace after ending a stormy relationship is a challenging journey.

Until you go through the pain of rejection, you may not understand why people choose to relocate after ending a stormy relationship.  Regaining the inner peace becomes urgent; is like you are gasping for a fresh air.  It is like finding another piece of the planet earth that is not contaminated; a place that is filled with people who will look at you with open hearts and non-judgmental eyes.  You want to go in the shopping mall and not fear to meet one of your Ex’s relatives who are likely to give you a dirty look or cold smile. Alternatively, you could meet a genuinely sad one who would like to have a cup of coffee with you. You decline because you know the agenda. While you know it is best to think of your needs first at this stage, nonetheless guilt will plagues you.  In principle you do not want to explain anything to anybody. Besides it is a personal matter and you do not want to cross the line in the process of justifying your actions.  Relocating therefore is a need that will support your intention to heal.

If you cannot relocate because of your job and your children’s school program or financial reasons, you must find some form of a support that will continually and systematically equip you to rise above the storm of negative thoughts.   My greatest help came from the church.  There nobody wanted me to repeat anything.  They just showed me how to hold the hand of the One who created me and knows the end from the beginning. The need for acceptance enabled me to willingly allow the One who knows the number of my hair and foretold that He will never leave nor for sake me even if my parents reject me to do just that.  It was a resting place where I learned to take up my cross and begin my spiritual journey of salvation.

The challenge in this place of solace was to repent before you can take any step in the direction of healing. This requires trust; you must trust the wisdom of your spiritual mentor and the system you know nothing about.  Asking for forgiveness for the part you played and that led to the breaking is challenging and could delay your first surrendering step.  You are told, your creator knows the truth and He requires that you submit to this step so that you can take His hand and walk away.  Knowing that He knows your live and has control over it, is quite humbling.  This is the action of surrendering to the healing hand that is capable of ushering you in a safe place of unconditional love. Your Creator is able to give you a crush-course in forgiving and loving unlovable people including the one who hurt you most.  

The true healing comes when you learn to pray and accept yourself unconditionally.  It is liberating to refrain from the ego tactics and take control of your life by finding a place within that is accepting and invigorating. My journey has been spiritual. My task has been to fill myself with so much love that, I always have a positive balance after the storm of negative emotions.    

Taking control: Finding inner peace is every person’s special assignment!

Finding the inner peace is a personal assignment which creates an urgent stir at one point in life. It is seeking the underlying purpose for which you exist and deep desire to live. Those who try to escape from complying, often face endless spiritual torment.

There is a confusion of locating this internal stir.  Is it the peace of mind I am seeking or responding to the inner voice in the region of my body? This alone indicates how oblivious of self we are! Nonetheless, this moment moves you to find knowledge of what to do.  Some would go to traditional spiritual doctors and end up living in a cave with instructions to seek wisdom from dead ancestors.  Some end up in convents to learn how to hear and respond to this profound need to converse and commune with Higher Spiritual Authority. I call this a special personal assignment.  

This special assignment is indeed unique and therefore I will not attempt to come up with a formula of how to go about it.  Nonetheless, there is a necessary principle that may help you not to seek wisdom from the dead.  The Creator warned us that there is no activity beyond the grave.  This then means seeking wisdom from Him is the only right route to follow.  The starting point is acknowledging your spirituality.  You are a spirit being and can only communicate with the Creator who is the Spirit from the spiritual realm.  Secondly, you need to remove yourself from the noisy environment that destructs you from listening to the prompting and conversation coming from the inner region of your body. It is activated by reading the Scriptures.   Clearly it does not come from your head; therefore it is important to note because we have been socialized to respond to the voices in our heads.

The voice gently stirs your heart in a loving way and shed a light of a desirable route.  This reveals where you have been and clearly directs you to the new route which you will immediately acknowledge as being what you want.  The process may come slowly like shedding off the rotten cabbage leaves until you find fresh part that can be used.  The revelation is likely to be accompanied by tearful remorse as you look into the place you have been. This is a repentance of the heart which is the beginning of your transformation. 

The challenge comes with the reality of living in a flesh among people who have not yet experience transformation.  Now the ball is in your court: You must decide where you want to be and do all that is necessary to stay there.  Usually this means trying to tell your family and friends about what you have decided to do.  Some will respect your transformed attitude, which is normally evident. Others will mock you and give your spiritual move a scientific name like a mid-life crisis.  This pull and push experience will usher you to go up the stream; because you are a life fish. This implies being strong in who you have become; hence choosing the spiritual way of life which is the domain of your the inner peace.

You may have experienced your special assignment in a completely different fashion.  If you have no idea of what I am talking about; it could mean yours is not yet due! All of us must have this revelation of our call. Seek it and you will find it because it is the answer to finding the inner peace!