Negative emotion is a
mental response to environment which does not tally with your beliefs and
values systems instilled through the socialization process. All people have accumulated
a varying degree of unpleasant experiences from words and actions used to teach
or correct behavior.
Anger defined!
Anger is a learned
physical and mental emotion accumulated throughout life, displaying a
biological stimulation of the body to fight or run in preservation of
self. In its degree of severity, it
could be subtle resentment, it could lead a person to raise the voice, pound
the hand/fist on objects and physically attack the source or victim.
Contributing factors to anger and other negative
emotions!
Anger is a common
emotional baggage which could begin before conception, be experienced at
conception, during pregnancy and throughout the foundational years of childhood
and adult life. The following depicts the contributing factors to anger and
other negative emotions:
1.
Before conception:
Parenting occurs before conception. If the mother did not fully agree on
starting a family because she was working towards a promotion to executive
position, compliance would not rule out subtle resentment and anger for
compromised personal goal; and that would affect a baby. It is said that the
sperm would experience resistance when trying to penetrate the egg.
2.
Pregnancy and childhood: Anger and other negative emotion such as fear due to
financial lack do affect the mother and the baby. Repressed anger is common and
do find outlets later in adult life. In most cases it manifest through continual
attempt to numb the pain through alcohol and other substances.
3.
Poor socialization: As
indicated above, socialization starts before conception and requires continual
empowerment of social, economic and spiritual knowledge and skills. The ideal
approach of empowerment is allowing learning through self experiences with
guidelines and not coercion or compliance by fear. Most parents transfer their
own experiences of childhood and add some or any logic that may resemble
purposeful impartation of knowledge and skills. A child learns by watching parents and others;
this implies that exposure to undesirable environment is harmful. Emotional
abuse is common when parents lack knowledge on what it is, and its impact on
the child’s self esteem. Most of us had to learn to regain our self-worth to be
able to access job market, pursue career, engage in and manage relationships.
How to overcome anger and other emotions!
When you are aware of your
anger triggers, you have the first key that will unlock the inner you and face
the challenge through various anger management techniques. You are on your way to reclaiming control of
your life because you can only change what you have identified as
undesirable. The following techniques
will assist you to not be controlled by your emotions:
1.
Abort negative thoughts: Anger is a manifestation of negative thoughts. The key
is watching the quality of your thoughts. The Creators advise us to meditate on
His Word – fix your thoughts on what is noble, pure, lovely and praise-worthy. Choose to forgive immediately.
2.
Breath and count to ten: If you flip to the next stage – feeling anger brewing
inside you, look at it and identify its color and watch it without judging. This
shift of attention into your ability and intention to maintain peace and joy
will immediately reduce the building up process. Remember you are not your mind
and therefore can watch the scene as a separate being. This simple act of
taking in fresh air though your nostrils will enable you to watch your anger
without participating in it. Watching it gives you power to reduce its
velocity and will enable you to respond and not react to the incident.
3.
Engage in physical activity: If you have fitness equipment engage in exercises; if
not find something to do like cleaning the floor, walls, cupboards. This will
cause your body to produce happy hormones that will offset the fight or run hormones.
4.
Be conscious about the tense muscles and relax your
shoulders while breathing deeply: When anger sets in, your body prepares to fight or run.
It pours in adrenalins into your system for increased strength. The heart rate increases and other body
functions are temporarily on hold because your brain has sent alert message for
a crisis. Shift your thoughts by focusing on any picture that will neutralize
this state. I normally sing or pray in the spirit and move away from the scene.
Unmanaged ager will eventually result in the following health issues:
·
High blood pressure
·
Stroke
·
Coronary conditions
·
Digestive issues
which may lead to cancer
·
Lowered immune
system which leads to colds, flu and other health conditions.
If you sit and ask
yourself if there is any reason to allow anger to ruin your life, you will have recognized the need to overcome the tendency to let circumstances disrupt your environment. Indulging in anger means allowing negative emotions to influence your life because you are not fully conscious; that is, you have given up your choice to lifestyle that supports holistic wellness.
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