Taking control: Have you moved from the cross-roads?

Life is a journey and has valleys that often stretches your faith and need added physical and spiritual energy. Cross-roads are life-rivers that you must cross and mountains you have to face and conquer.  There are incidents that require life changing decisions which I refer to as your cross-roads.

Assessing your cross-roads score in 2014

Self evaluation is a basis on which you measure your personal growth. It follows therefore that you note why you have not reached your goal, and must identify the underlying reasons for you failure. If had written your goals down, it would be easy to go back and read them objectively. It is also important to update activities you engaged in and how much time you invested so that you could rationally evaluate the nature of your challenges. Some people dislike this exercise; but it is critical that you see it as valuable gauge that inform you about the resources you need to get to your destination.

 We all have goals pertaining to relationship, financial prosperity and improving our health. Other important aspects that need upward mobility are your spirituality and improving your professional profile. Let us highlight your progress on the scale of one to ten, regarding common ground in which most people seek:

1.   Relationships: How far have you progressed in bridging the gap with your spouse and or partner, children and colleagues? For example, perhaps you have been working on supporting your spouse or and your company partner without trying to change them. It could be that you are a student; you are overwhelmed by your parents for not being ready to parent you as a teenager!

Solution: As a spouse you have to learn about unconditional love and the difference of controlling versus supporting other people? As a parent, learn to coach rather than be a military commander!

2.   Financial prosperity: Have you started your own business? If not why? For example you need to plan your day so that you can list activities towards your goals and still honor the recommended six hours sleep.

Solution: Have you considered registering for part-time course to conquer the fast changing technology so that you can fully utilize the internet?

3.   Optimum health: You noticed that you have weight challenges because you like starch and sweet foods. You have not passed the challenge yet you know the consequences.

Solution: You know you cannot sweep the dirt under the carpet any longer; you must face your mountains! Ask yourself! What gap am I filling with food?

4.   Career development: You know that you must register for masters program to be able to qualify for managerial position. You postponed this for the last two years. What exactly is your problem?

Solution: Write down the benefits of improving your academic background and place them where you can read them at least twice a day. You have to convince yourself and there is power in repetition!

5.   Spiritual growth: The paradox of life is this: Fulfillment is attainable in the spiritual realm because you are a spiritual being with a soul living in a body.  If you have no idea what this statement of fact means, you have to start to research on the concept because this is where you must begin to attain everything mentioned above.

For you to make progress on life journey you have to make decision to keep on going and trusting on your gut feelings. The greatest injustice you can ever do is failing to make decision to move from challenging situations. Camping at cross-road is allowing the fear of unknown or failure to keep you in your own prison. Consider failures as stepping stone that enables you to enlarge your social and financial intelligence.

   

Taking control: You have moved from the crossroads; what is next?

Checking how far you have ventured into your future from the crossroads is more than exhilarating; it energizes you and motivates you to find your purpose for life.  Moving from the place of fear says you are psychologically ready to face new challenges.

The first shaky steps into the future

I am talking to those who have been trapped in abusive relationships.  Those who looked into self to find how they have contributed to being in a blissful place with the chosen partners and soon tumbled into muddy ones of verbal abuse and tears! Having moved from the place of torment is the best thing you can ever do for yourself.  You have a right to be corrected with love if you deviated from the agreed norms.  You deserved to be respected and not be verbally abused and left with doubt about your values and beliefs.  You had to consider why you partner suddenly ran out of words to express hurts without insulting you!  Moving from that crossroad was right; never doubt that!  You needed to be safe so that you could learn the right way to share life under contract relationship.  Most importantly, if you left before you had a physical scar of abuse; it was a cherry on top!  You did not have to spend the rest of your life with evidence of how brutal a human being you loved chose to be vicious.

How are you adjusting to new a life?

It is amazing how being free could be so intimidating! Again you have entered into a new social circle that needs you to adapt and engage in a teachable attitude.  Freedom could be lonely! You have to learn to like your silent environment, the one where there is no need to justify why dinner is ten minutes late.  I am not suggesting that you fall into disorganized lifestyle.  If you have children who have picked the negative energy of your fights, you need to consider professional help to ensure that they are coping with new arrangement, of calling daddy and being picked up for visitation.  That could be a new stressful situation, thinking about their safety with their father.  Faith-based organizations offers safe environment where you children could meet new friends and experience love and spiritual lessons.  You too would find new friends, ones that would not judge you.  I prefer older people who are spiritually mature.  They make you their new project; they tend to know the ideal verses in the Bible that will nurture you and usher you into the spiritual realm. When you surrender into this new spiritual environment, be ready to burn your bridge so that you can only move forward.  You will understand why meditation always has a calming effect when you engage in one-on-one with God.  It heals your emotional wounds and empowers you to minister to your children with abundance of love.

Surrendering is regaining power to maintain your mobility

As you learn to meditate on the word of God, you will gradually fill the emptiness in your life.  He loves you unconditionally; self-condemnation will disappear.  He created marriage to be a happy communion with special person in this life.  He also sends you on planet earth to do His business.  Surrendering will reveal your spiritual journey and show you that you have been equipped to fulfill God’s assignment which could be where you are employed or running your business. You must simply surrender and let His Spirit guide you!  When you engage in these fulfilling spiritual tasks, you will regain your joy and happiness.  Life will have a new meaning! Most importantly, you will realize that most of the stress was caused by the fact that you have been running in a fast lane; without regard for your Creator.

As you re-write your goals, always check whether you are operating on your given strengths. Visit a page on your weakness so that you can learn from them for the purpose of guiding your children as you watch them grow! They are your number one project. Do your best!