Taking control: First things first – Do you know who you are?

The process of socialization shapes behavior to conform to societal values and beliefs.  It instills foundational perception of your environment and therefore configures you to see and attain preconceived standards.

First things first!

If you are able to read this article, it means you have passed the phase of close monitoring in which your parents had to approve the content of your non-formal and formal learning.   It is said that an infant accumulates foundational principles from birth to eight years. This simply means if you have been exposed to positive environment, you have positive foundational information which will help you to perceive the world positively.  The same principle applies for negative or non-educational environment.  The remaining gaps are filled through peer education and other social institutions. The essence of this awareness is to challenge you to ask yourself the following questions:  Who am I? Can I describe myself according to how I perceive myself?

The rationale for knowing who you are!

Can you successfully formulate your goal when you do not know who you are? Attempting to know who you are is discovering your given talents and spiritual gifts because they will reveal the purpose for which you exists. It is an awakening to the fact that what you see could be the tip of an iceberg.  Your parents may have raised you but they can never accurately define who you really are! Only you know who you are!  Why? Because you learned to comply with what you were taught even when you felt otherwise about certain rules, values and beliefs.  If you do not revisit this exercise to audit what those values and beliefs are, you cannot live your life nor input refined knowledge into your version of socialization for your own self development.  

Why is evaluation of who you are important?  It enables you to consider whether you are on tract on three aspects of your life:

1.     Relationships: What do you understand by ideal relationships? How do you rate yourself on the scale of 1 to 10?

Tips: Do you relate to people without another voice editing how you should speak, open to other people or even disproving your conduct? Do you feel as if someone is watching you and monitoring your behavior? If this is the case, you need to discover why!

2.     Wealth: Do you know what wealth is and how you feel about attaining it?  How do you rate yourself on the scale of 1 to 10?

Tips: Is accumulating money part of your personal goals? How do you feel about having money and living without any lack? Have you self-educate yourself about getting rich? 

3.     Health: Do you still buy food that you ate as a child? Have you added any knowledge about eating right and maintaining healthy lifestyle?  How do you rate yourself on the scale of 1 to 10?

Tips: If you still eat food that your parents taught you to eat and has not improved anything, it could be that they were diet conscious and very good in life-supporting lifestyle or you have not really thought about improving your health.  Without good health your attempts for good relationships and accumulation of wealth could be futile.

The principle of first things first in this context denotes an awakening of the sense of self; the personalized definition which confirms or edits attributes that define how you perceive yourself.  It is identifying given tools that are meant to assist you to reach your goals.  Your goals are made up of these given unique interests and skills so that your life could be meaningful and satisfying. 

Taking control: Key to ideal relationships, health and accelerated wealth!

The law of the universe reveals that love in its many forms; is a key to ideal relationships.  A lifestyle that is permeated by general positive attitude allows the body to deal with health challenges and empowers you to access wealth.

Love is the main ingredient for ideal relationships.

Love has many positive faces: To me gratitude is the most complex.  It is a deep positive regard for God, self and others.  Basically mankind has little love; whatever reflects peaceful approach to life is foreign to many people.  This is reflected by having a neighbor you avoid conversing with and therefore do not know his/her name. Without other people including family and friends, I wonder if you would have a reason to improve your own love content and other skills to achieve anything. There can be no relationship without love. Hearts are broken due to conditional love wherein both parties fail to regard relationships differently to spicing food according to personal preferences.  Many of us come into a relationship not prepared to change ourselves so that we can share life; we seek to use cover-up tactics to manipulate and control the other party to conform to our perceived ideals.  A relationship so impregnated by skewed intentions soon shows signs of illness.  Relationships experts say the ratio should be noting one blemish to ten positive attributes.  What is your ratio?  Remember you can only change you and not the other party!

Love heals the body and elevates your social stature and spiritual maturity.

Love is a driving positive force behind a peaceable, joyful and ideal healthy lifestyle.  It is incredible how much your spirit, soul and physical body would thrive if you could maintain this principle of your existence.  The Creator says man perishes for lack of knowledge. It is indeed so; for if you really internalize the fact that anger and all its cousins cause cancer and other illnesses, you would seek love like you seek gold.  Negativity breaks relationships, and causes stress which destroys your immune system.  Without this defense, the body wanes and eventually dies.  Mankind is mainly a spirit with a soul living in a body.  As a spirit being (being denotes be-in-God) you come out of Him; this is why He knew you before you were conceived.  Your spiritual makeup is love because He is Love, which is a key to the essence of life – relationships, health and wealth.  This summarizes a very important concept which other people may not full comprehend.  Your spirit self thrives in love; this is why there is always a conflicting feeling of wanting to reach out and demonstrate unconditional love, yet the ego stands in a way and often wins.

Love is a key that open doors to your wealth.

A lot has been discovered since the advent of open discussions and teachings on the universal law.  We would have a differing view had we not heard of millionaires that love plays an important role in accelerating accumulation of wealth.  This has encouraged researchers to find a common attributes of those who are enlightened.  They all encouraged us to love others in order to be in a spiritually favorable place.  They all knew and have experienced the existence of the Higher Power that controls everything we need to survive and enjoy life.  Some may negate this fact because they got their wealth without consciously engaging in positive lifestyle even though they did not recognize the Source I am referring to.  The point is, yes you may be experiencing an ideal relationship and enjoying good life, but there is a spiritual hole; a void that makes you yearn for something that money cannot buy.  That is how important it is to not neglect your spirituality.

Taking control is recognizing your three dimensional existence – spirit, soul and body.  It is seeking the wisdom to ideal life that points to your relationships levels with God first, yourself and others. It is accumulating knowledge about love and how it impacts on your health and wealth.