BEING AWARE OF SOCIALIZATION ISSUES

Most of us are lucky to have discovered our socialization issues during our early adulthood. Are you one of those? Well! You may not readily say yes or no… Either way, walk with me on the journey of discovery, healing and growth!

There are different views concerning the nature and the impact of childhood socialization. Some say there is little or no impact on how a child is raised. It is said that individual make choices that will propel them into success or failure. Others attach great importance on the quality of life before and during the first eight years of the child development. This view point senses we experience the world with: hearing, sight, smell, taste, touch and feelings as points of entry of either harmful or supportive experiences.  Our beliefs and values are therefore defined on the bases of our previous experiences; how we interpret information and how they impacted our emotions.

If you were to internalize these views, would you say there is a certain behavioral pattern which point to the possibility of you being one of those who know that they need to engage in self-assessment exercise to identify socialization blemishes? If so, read on! Remember, you cannot correct unidentified behavioral issues.  In other words, even if you are those who believe that one can sweep the dirt under the carpet and move on, you have nothing to lose.  You would have attempted to clear the anchors that limit your success efforts.

You may agree with me that the starting point is being aware that you are never fully conscious of your present level of growth which would enable you to assess where you are and where you would like to go.  You live in an unconsciousness realm and fully allow your minds to dwell in the past or fast-forward into dreamland of the future. It is a futile situation because you cannot change the past and have very little chance to change the future without changing how you think and act now.

For an example, you may not even realize that you live under the threat of your own minds which take you everywhere except in the present.  The fact is; thinking is the function of the mind just as looking is the function of the eyes.  Some people are victims of the current education system which offered unclear career paths that led them to unsuitable jobs.  Others have sailed successfully through their career paths but are unhappy outside their prestigious offices. Why? Possibly because life proved to be far more complex than the academic hurdles they overcame. 

The point of focus is to raise awareness that those who studied human behavior and penned their views in psychological models articulated helpful guidelines: To understand behavior involves knowing both objective external situation as well as subjective perceptions. For instance, two people do not react the same way from the same challenging environment. This view simply point to the fact that there are complex elements that contribute to human behavior and also affirms the uniqueness of every person in the way they interact with others.

The ideal view is one that takes a positive perspective of life; that those who fly low need a shoulder to lean on while cutting loose from their emotional anchors. I know there are those who identify with the frustration of disentangling themselves by learning to say no to any limiting situations or factors.   Basically I believe that human nature is good and seek growth.  I also agree with those who say that all infants are born genius and through socialization, learn not to utilize their potential.  This is evident during the infancy stages where a child is more rebuked than encouraged because parents simply do not understand that infants learn through exploring their environment. Some parents do not know that children must crawl freely in a suitable environment to undertake this foundation building tasks.  They also do not know that they must learn how to interact with others through various stages of development in order to learn to create and manage relationships.

Mankind is created to live a good life. I have attempted to bring awareness of optimum life by highlighting the common deficiency of living in the past where there are unpleasant experiences.  We also tend to live in the future and therefore are permanently anxious.  You only have now to correct the past by learning to appreciate life daily. Love is present. Let everyday be an opportunity to take an upward mobility and enjoy it as if it is the last day.